If I Knew, Then I Would Have . . .

January 21, 2013
The importance of telling those we love how we feel before it’s too late.

Double Rainbow

Sandy and other storms and natural disasters undoubtedly take the lives of many people who thought they had many years yet to live. Their loved ones may very well wish they had shared their love with them one more time.

The survivors may have many regrets in missing the chance to share their love, to ask for or receive forgiveness, and to offer appreciation for all the other person has done.

Yet it is natural to assume that a loved one or dear friend will be here tomorrow. We wouldn’t function well if we lived in constant fear that we wouldn’t see the other person again.

So what do we do?

We can say “I love you” as often as we can, we can ask for and grant forgiveness for the things that have come between us, and we let the other person know how much we appreciate him or her  — and then trust that the person will come back into our lives.

Just don’t take the possibility for granted!

In an earlier version of Support4Change I included the following poem as a sidebar. Now I’ve moved it here, where it expresses exactly what I want to say about recent tragedies.


If I knew it would be the last time
That I’d see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say “I love you,”
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
Well I’m sure you’ll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there’s always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.

There will always be another day
to say, “I love you,”
And certainly there’s another chance
to ask, “Anything I can do?”

But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I’d like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get
to hold your loved one tight.

So if you’re waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you’ll surely regret the day…

That you didn’t take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you’ll always hold them dear

Take time to say “I’m sorry,”
“Please forgive me,” “Thank you,” or “It’s okay.”
And if tomorrow never comes,
you’ll have no regrets about today.

— Author Unknown

 Photo courtesy of Wikimedia Commons
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