June 3, 2013
Build Relationships by Sharing
Stories of Motivation and Inspiration
Discover the qualities of friendship and share them with the people you know.
When I painted my office thirty years ago, the deep, dusty rose color was modern. Over the years, it has become increasingly depressing. With a crack in the ceiling and plaster damage from water that seeped around the wall air conditioner, it was clearly time for a change. It was not a change that happened easily.
Imagine a room with several book cases, loads of articles that an author or speaker might use for an idea she might want to write sometime in the future, broken pencils and pens with dried ink, loads of magazines for reference material, reams of papers she bought with matching envelopes that are now missing, and other “stuff” that it is easy to accumulate when you don’t take time periodically to cleanse the premises.
Fortunately, I hired my niece, who is an experienced organizer. She was not as emotionally attached to fifteen-year-old articles and notes from long-gone conferences as I was. However, she has gently cajoled me into letting go of instruction manuals for programs I no longer use.
A New Feature to Share with Your Friends
I tell you all of this by way of explaining that hidden within hundreds of files and dozens of shelves, I rediscovered many inspirational and interesting pieces that were just the kinds of things that would be valuable for the blog.
Not only do I think you would enjoy them, but I suspect your friends will as well. And while I imagine you forward a post to others once-in-awhile, you may get too busy to forward them to those in your life who might enjoy a little cheering up or who could use a little inspiration.
So I have created a special feature called “Inspiration for You and Your Friends” that will occur the first Monday of each month. Of course, this isn’t to say that much of the blog is not inspirational, but some posts just call out to be shared with special people in your life.
Passing on Friendship Advice to You from a Friend of Mine
To set the tone for this feature, I begin with one that initially appeared in Learning Place Online, an older site of mine that I no longer actively maintain, so you may have missed it.
These words of wisdom were sent to me by Patty Paul, who knows how to be a world-class friend. Several months after her husband died, she sent her friends an e-mail thanking them for their kindness and support to her and her husband, saying “This describes each and every one of you. I treasure your friendship.”
The e-mail listed thirty-three pieces of advice about friendship. Out of them I have chosen a dozen that illustrate the best qualities of friendship — qualities which Patty expresses every day. As you read them, think of someone who demonstrates each of the qualities and consider sharing this post with them.
Very Good Friendship Advice
1. Don’t worry about knowing people, just make yourself worth knowing.
2. Be friendly with the folks you know. If it weren’t for them you would be a total stranger.
3. Friends are those who speak to you after others don’t.
4. The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail and not his tongue.
5. The way to have friends is to be willing to lose some arguments.
6. Deal with other’s faults as gently as if they were your own.
7. A friend is a person who can step on your toes without messing your shine.
8. You will never have a friend if you must have one without faults.
9. You can make more friends by being interested in them than trying to have them be interested in you.
10. A real friend is a person who, when you’ve made a fool of yourself, lets you forget it.
11. A friend is a person who listens attentively while you say nothing.
12. A friend is someone who thinks you’re a good egg even though you’re slightly cracked.
Most important, A FRIEND IS A TREASURE.”
If you have additional qualities you would add to the list, please share them with my blog readers (as well as with your personal friends).
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