Inspiration for You and Your Friends: It Can Be Hard to See the Value of Our “Mistakes”

September 23, 2013

Build Relationships by Sharing
Stories of Motivation and Inspiration

Number 3

Discover the qualities of friendship and share them with the people you know.

Discover the qualities of friendship and share them with the people you know.


Did you start out to be a perfectionist like I did? If so, it may have taken you awhile to discover that your “less desirable” qualities — that is, the things you don’t like about yourself — can bring more benefits to others than the qualities about which you are most proud.

Today I am sharing an email message sent to me by a friend that ends with: “To all of my crackpot friends, have a great day and remember to smell the flowers on your side of the path.” You’ll have to read the piece to know what she meant.

But as you read this, consider what “crackpot” characteristics your friends have that you appreciate more than their sterling qualities.

And how about you? Is there something about you that has proved to be a benefit to others even though you think you are a little eccentric, impractical, outlandish, half-baked, etc., when you do or say that kind of thing?

Suggested Method for Sharing Special Inspirational Posts

  1. Read the post
  2. Decide how it applies to you and choose to make a change in your life
  3. Think about a friend (or friends) who might enjoy receiving the inspiration
  4. Send a link to the post to a friend (or two) together with a few comments

Two Pots

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck.  One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.  At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.  For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.  But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.  After 2 years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.  “I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.

The old woman smiled, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?  That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.”

“For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”

Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.  You’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

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