Ask Questions of Yourself and Your Friends: Fear

July 17, 2014
 Deepen relationships by asking questions
about managing emotions.

Ask Questions and Explore Answers


two bears

I once saw a cartoon that showed two bears in a forest. One bear turns to the other and says: “It’s the lions and tigers that scare me.” We all have something that scares us.

This post explores how fear helps you and how sometimes it just gets in your way.

It’s like the smarter you are, the more things can scare you.

—Katheran Paterson

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That fear of missing out on things makes you miss out on everything. Keeps you from reality.

—Etty Hillesum

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I have not ceased being fearful, but I have ceased to let fear control me. I have accepted fear as a part of life, specifically the fear of change, the fear of the unknown, and I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back, turn back, you’ll die if you venture too far.

—Erica Jong

Now look at the questions below and share this post with a friend.

Suggested Method for Exploring Questions About Managing Emotions

  1. Carefully consider the questions below and notice how your answers help or hinder your experience of life.
  2. Share the questions and your answers with friends and/or family members.
  3. Ask them to share their answers with you.
  4. Notice how their answers may be the same as, or different than yours.
  5. Notice how the answers both of you give have expanded your understanding of yourself and of the other person.

Questions on How You Are Able to Manage Fear  

What is my greatest fear?

Would others consider it reasonable?

What do I do when I am afraid or feel threatened?

Does it work? Why or why not?

What happens when I look at the things that frighten me?

What can I learn from this fear?

What can I change?

When I am afraid, to what can I surrender other than my fear?

How can I remember to do that when I’m in the middle of being afraid?

photo courtesy of Wikimedia Commons


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