Who Are Your Personal Heroes and Heroines?

Expand relationships by asking yourself questions about who your personal heroes and heroines

If you are new to this feature of the Support4Change Blog, here are some suggestions for exploring questions for yourself and also for your family and friends.

Heroes are made by the paths they choose, not the powers they are graced with. ― Brodi AshtonEverneath

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My own heroes are the dreamers, those men and women who tried to make the world a better place than when they found it, whether in small ways or great ones. Some succeeded, some failed, most had mixed results… but it is the effort that’s heroic, as I see it. Win or lose, I admire those who fight the good fight. ― George R.R. Martin

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Unconsciously we all have a standard by which we measure other men, and if we examine closely we find that this standard is a very simple one, and is this: we admire them, we envy them, for great qualities we ourselves lack. Hero worship consists in just that. Our heroes are men who do things which we recognize, with regret, and sometimes with a secret shame, that we cannot do. We find not much in ourselves to admire, we are always privately wanting to be like somebody else. If everybody was satisfied with himself, there would be no heroes. ― Mark Twain


We all admire courage, outstanding achievement and noble qualities — whether it is a firefighter who enters a burning building to save a child, or a pilot who ditches his plane in a river to avoid apartments just yards away, or a girl in Pakistan who stands up to the Taliban.

We hold these people in our hearts and declare them heroes and heroines.

However, there are others who are recognized by only a few. You know them as friends and co-workers and relatives who have shown courage and achieved goals that we are sure would not be possible for us. They act the way we would like to act, if only we had their courage.

The questions today focus on those people. You are asked to explore what about them makes them heroes and heroines in your eyes — and whether the qualities they express might be ones you also have, only yours are buried a little deeper and need encouragement to be expressed.

Incidentally, you will notice questions relating to their physical characteristics. The reason I include these is to emphasize that our heroes and heroines are not chosen for their good looks and perfect bodies, nor for their sense of fashion and style, but by their character and actions.

Think of Three People Who Are Your Personal Heroes or Role Models and Ask Yourself These Questions:

  1. When I think about these three people, what qualities in them do I admire?
  2. How many of these qualities have anything to do with their physical characteristics?
  3. How many of these qualities do I have or want to have?
  4. How does thinking about the people I admire and their size or physical characteristics affect the way I think about myself?

What have you learned about yourself in exploring these questions?
What have you learned about your friends if they have explored these questions with you?

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