A Note from Arlene

Arlene Harder

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I have had a continuous online presence for more than sixteen years with four websites, the last of which was Support4Change. Now I am in the process of bringing many of my previous articles here to my blog.

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Diversions, Part 13: Crazy English

Diversions for You and Your Friends is a feature of the blog, which appears every Monday. To find out more about Diversions, read the Introduction and Part 1, or you can visit the Diversions Archive.

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This week’s Diversions for You and Your Friends is “Crazy English.” You can use this Diversion several ways:hiend to read in his or her browser.

1. Online version. Read “Crazy English” or forward this PDF for a friend to read in his or her browser.

2. Print version. Print the PDF and send it to a friend. I print my cards on both sides of an 8.5” x 11” paper. Then I fold that in half and put it into a 6” x 9” envelope. (You could also just print it out and cut it into four pages, which are numbered, staple them together, and fit them into in a business-sized envelope.) Read More

Beyond Ordinary Listening

This article by Joyce Vissell originally appeared as an article on the former Support4Change website.

Learn how to communicate so fully that your partner can’t help but pay attention and listen to every word.

Jubilee and Munin, Ravens, Tower of London 2016-04-30The art of listening is very important in life and essential in any relationship. Being able to listen carefully assures that valuable communication is passed between two people. Some communication is so riveting that we can’t help but pay attention and listen to every word.

But what about the communications that do not capture our attention fully. These are slower communications that do not pull you right in and perhaps are harder to keep your focus. It is during these times when you can “listen-plus.”

What is “listening-plus”? Though I just made up the name for this article, I have been practicing this technique for many years and it has brought me much joy. “Listening-plus” employs the heart as well as the ears and mind. Read More

Diversions, Part 12: Be Here Now

Diversions for You and Your Friends is a feature of the blog, which appears every Monday. To find out more about Diversions, read the Introduction and Part 1, or you can visit the Diversions Archive.

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This week’s Diversions for You and Your Friends is “Be Here Now.” You can use this Diversion several ways:hiend to read in his or her browser.

1. Online version. Read “Be Here Now” or forward this PDF for a friend to read in his or her browser.

2. Print version. Print the PDF and send it to a friend. I print my cards on both sides of an 8.5” x 11” paper. Then I fold that in half and put it into a 6” x 9” envelope. (You could also just print it out and cut it into four pages, which are numbered, staple them together, and fit them into in a business-sized envelope.) Read More

Diversions, Part 11: Say the Secret Word

Diversions for You and Your Friends is a feature of the blog, which appears every Monday. To find out more about Diversions, read the Introduction and Part 1, or you can visit the Diversions Archive.

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This week’s Diversions for You and Your Friends is “Say the Secret Word.” You can use this Diversion several ways:hiend to read in his or her browser.

1. Online version. Read “Say the Secret Word” or forward this PDF for a friend to read in his or her browser.

2. Print version. Print the PDF and send it to a friend. I print my cards on both sides of an 8.5” x 11” paper. Then I fold that in half and put it into a 6” x 9” envelope. (You could also just print it out and cut it into four pages, which are numbered, staple them together, and fit them into in a business-sized envelope.) Read More

Diversions, Part 10: Silly Stories

Diversions for You and Your Friends is a feature of the blog, which appears every Monday. To find out more about Diversions, read the Introduction and Part 1.

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This week’s Diversions for You and Your Friends is “Silly Stories.” You can use this Diversion several ways:

1. Online version. Read “Silly Stories” or forward this PDF for a friend to read in his or her browser.

2. Print version. Print the PDF and send it to a friend. I print my cards on both sides of an 8.5” x 11” paper. Then I fold that in half and put it into a 6” x 9” envelope. (You could also just print it out and cut it into four pages, which are numbered, staple them together, and fit them into in a business-sized envelope.) Read More