A Note from Arlene

Arlene Harder

Welcome to the Support4Change Blog!

I have had a continuous online presence for more than sixteen years with four websites, the last of which was Support4Change. Now I am in the process of bringing many of my previous articles here to my blog.

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Diversions, Part 9: Coloring an Angel

Diversions for You and Your Friends is a feature of the blog, which appears every Monday. To find out more about Diversions, read the Introduction and Part 1.

09 - edward-burne-jones-an-angel-playing-a-flageoletThis week’s Diversions for You and Your Friends is “Coloring an Angel.” You can use this Diversion several ways:

1. Online version. Read “Coloring an Angel” or forward this PDF for a friend to read in his or her browser. Read More

Diversions, Part 8: Five Things You Don’t Want to Think About

Diversions for You and Your Friends is a feature of the blog, which appears every Monday. To find out more about Diversions, read the Introduction and Part 1.

0327 - Diversion 8This week’s Diversions for You and Your Friends is “Five Things You Don’t Want to Think About.” You can use this Diversion several ways:

1. Online version. Read “Five Things You Don’t Want to Think About” or forward this PDF for a friend to read in his or her browser.

2. Print version. Print the PDF and send it to a friend. I print my cards on both sides of an 8.5” x 11” paper. Then I fold that in half and put it into a 6” x 9” envelope. (You could also just print it out and cut it into four pages, which are numbered, staple them together, and fit them into in a business-sized envelope.)

You will notice that in this print version (and print versions in the future) that there is a space at the top of the card where you can write your own greeting to your friend. Read More

Are You a Scanner or a Perfectionist?

In this review of Barbara Sher’s book, Refuse to Choose!, the concept of Scanners is explored and will help you idenify if you are one.

It has long been an axiom that perfectionism causes procrastination, which leads to paralysis in which the perfectionist can’t seem to do anything. So if someone has difficulty getting started on projects, or goes from one project to another without completing them, she may assume she is a failed perfectionist. She wants to do well but doesn’t do anything.

However, in Refuse to Choose! : A Revolutionary Program for Doing Everything That You Love by Barbara Sher, a best-selling author of six self-help books, you will learn than not all who are paralyzed are perfectionists. Well, they may have a bit of perfectionism in them, for in a perfectionism society it’s not surprising if there is a little of that in all of us. Read More

Diversions, Part 7: Jokes to Remember

Diversions for You and Your Friends is a feature of the blog, which appears every Monday. To find out more about Diversions, read the Introduction and Part 1.

This week’s Diversions for You and Your Friends is “Jokes to Remember.” You can use this Diversion several ways:

1. Online version. Read “Jokes to Remember” or forward this PDF for a friend to read in his or her browser.

2. Print version. Print the PDF and send it to a friend. I print my cards on both sides of an 8.5” x 11” paper. Then I fold that in half and put it into a 6” x 9” envelope. (You could also just print it out and cut it into four pages, which are numbered, staple them together, and fit them into in a business-sized envelope.)

An Agnostic’s Encounter with God, Part 4

This post was originally an article on the Support4Change website. Because if its length, it has been broken up into 4 parts, and posted on Thursdays. Begin with Part 1.

This personal story describes the gradual movement from religious faith to agnosticism to spiritual awareness.

Searching for the Meaning of My Experience

Shortly after the book was mysteriously dropped on the floor, I had an appointment with a wonderful therapist, Chris Varnes. Telling her about the experience, I told her I was sure there was a logical explanation I haven’t yet thought of, for surely reason dictated I not accept this as a “sign” of a spirit. That would just be weird. (I had, and still do, an aversion to appearing “weird.”)

Her response helped set me on the path to exploring these phenomena as “spiritual” events. She said, “Arlene, it’s true that you could take two hours and give me every reason why you should dismiss these knocks and moved objects. But let’s imagine they represent something to which you ARE supposed to pay attention. How would you go about exploring what it all means?” Read More