I believe that even when people have had an unfortunate childhood and live in less than optimal conditions, in every person there is love. In every person there is healing power. In every person there are sources for both serenity and vitality. In every person there is potential for beauty, wisdom and success.
As a licensed psychotherapist for thirty years, I developed an interest in the use of guided imagery techniques to reinforce the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual qualities that arise from deep within each one of us.
Unfortunately, we are often too busy or distracted to realize that these qualities can help us solve the very problems that keep us from living fully, even in the face of difficulties.
It was from my work in this area that I co-founded The Wellness Community in Pasadena, CA, (now the Cancer Support Community). It is the largest professionally-led nonprofit network of cancer support worldwide.
Out of that experience I co-founded and managed a non-profit online cancer support website, CancerOnline.org, as executive director. (It is no longer active).
Later I created three other websites. LearningPlaceOnline.com offered information on a broad range of topics. ChildhoodAffirmations.com was designed to help parents raise resourceful, resilient and compassionate children. Support4Change.com had hundreds of articles to help people understand how they could achieve peace within themselves, their families, work, community and the world.
Tens of thousands of people visited my websites every month and it gave me great pleasure to know that I made a difference in their lives. Now I am focusing online on just this blog and hope it makes a difference in your life. The topics I cover here are pretty much whatever I am currently interested in writing about. Hope you find something to interest you here as well.
In addition to creating websites, I have written four books.
Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough is based on my personal experience and the experience of my clients. It is out of print but I will someday excerpt some of it for the blog, as I am now doing with two of my other books.
Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life is based on the idea that when we know the questions to ask, we can find answers within ourselves rather than assume that someone else knows what’s best for us.
Healing Relationships is an Inside Job offers advice for healing strained and broken relationships.
How to Love a Perfectionist Without Going Crazy is a digital book to help people who are partners, dating or otherwise, with a perfectionist; that is, someone who hasn’t yet learned that life is a whole lot easier when they are able to distinguish between those things that are most important to do well — and those that are not.
On a personal note, I was married for 54 years to a wonderful man who tolerated my rocky path to becoming a recovering perfectionist. He died in 2014, several months after we moved into a retirement community. Now I have learned how to be a widow from fascinating women I would never have met had I not moved to Villa Gardens.
I have two sons and two daughters, two sons-in-law and two daughters-in-law, nine grandsons, three granddaughters, and two great-granddaughters. I enjoy all of them and all of my life very much!