In this discussion and excerpt from my book, Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, learn what prevents people from changing behavior and what best motivates them to change.
Are you actively working to change some aspect of your relationship, and of your behavior, and can’t understand how someone else (perhaps the “significant other” in your life) and either doesn’t have a clue that anything is wrong with the situation, or with him or her, or seems inexplicably unwilling to do anything about it?
Why, you ask, are you so willing to change and the other person is not? I’ve asked myself that many times, since I’m one of those who constantly scrutinizes my problems to see how I might be contributing to the situation. That doesn’t mean I’ve been completely successful in changing some of my more tenacious bad habits, but I do work at it (which can, paradoxically, also be a curse for those of us who are recovering perfectionists). Nevertheless, for many years I found it difficult to understand why others weren’t as introspective as I. Read More