Perfectionist Personality Self-test

Want to know if you are a member of the Practicing Perfectionist Society?

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Take the test below to see whether you believe you have to do a “perfect” job in almost everything you do, even though it often isn’t required. Designed by a recovering perfectionist, these questions can give you a perspective on the topic you may not have had.

As you ask yourself the following questions, pay particular attention to the “why” of your answer.

  • Do I like to prove my value as a person by showing others I am totally competent at some task? [yes/no]

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Does Following the Rules (or Not) Affect Your Relationships?

The questions today are simple and have to do with a topic we generally don’t talk about much, it’s the way in which some of us are sticklers for following the rules (perfectionists particularly) and others who rebel against rules. If you and another person are at loggerheads, perhaps that is one of your problems. How would you answer the following questions?

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Following the Rules

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:

Would others consider me agreeable, conventional, conforming, suggestible, and/or indecisive?

Do I sometimes feel I understand others, but then realize I don’t because I’ve been too focused on pleasing them? If so, why do I think this is true of me?

Might someone say that I act bored, want to make a good impression, go by the book, and am nice but rigid, strong and silent?

What do the answers to these questions say about my relationship with others?

These questions complement the Better Tomorrows Program for healing strained and broken relationships and are part of the blog’s series of questions for exploring who you are.

To explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club.

Does Flexibility or Inflexibility Affect Your Relationships?

NOTE #1: If you’ve been following the blog, you may notice that the travel notes got a little messed up recently. You may find some pictures and their stories got repeated. Sorry. I think I’ve gotten myself straightened out now.
NOTE #2: I have revised and updated the Q-and-A Club and now include the blog’s questions for exploring your personality (including those below) as part of the Understanding Yourself category. Check out the new club and see which level of free membership you’d like to join. It’s all informal, so just choose some area of interest and ask yourself questions.

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Exploring Your Personality # 14:

Flexibility and Inflexibility

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:

Does it take time for me to adjust to new situations and unexpected circumstances? If not, why do I think I am flexible? If so, why do I think I have trouble being flexible?

Would I like to roll with the punches better than I do? If so, how do I imagine I would do things differently?

These questions complement the Better Tomorrows Program for healing strained and broken relationships and are part of the blog’s series of questions for exploring who you are.

To explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club.

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PART TWO

Equador and Peru Travel Report # 15:

We Were Blue-Footed Boobies

Blue-footed Boobies

On the cruise ship through the Galapagos Islands, the ninety passengers were divided into groups that fit nicely into the Zodiac boats that took us on trips to the beaches of individual islands. Each group was given a name like Penguins, Dolphins, Pelicans, etc. We were the Boobies, which meant the blue-footed boobies like those above. I was particularly pleased because when I asked my grandson at Christmas last year what he wanted, he said he wanted a donation in his name to the Wildlife Fund; and he chose the blue-footed boobies as his choice of an endangered species.

I have to admit, these are strange-looking birds who carry out a blue theme throughout their whole bodies. I don’t know if there are other birds whose name reflects the color of their feet, but these do and I like to think that maybe a tiny bit of the money we gave to the Wildlife Fund makes their life a bit easier.

Does Creativity Affect Your Relationships?

NOTE: If you’ve been following the blog, you may notice that the travel notes got a little messed up recently. You may find some pictures and their stories got repeated. Sorry. I think I’ve gotten myself straightened out now.

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Exploring Your Personality # 13:

Creativity

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:

Do I believe I am creative? If so, what do I have to show for my creativity? If not, why do I feel this way?

Is there something I’ve been wanting to create for a long time and keep putting off? If so, what is it? What stops me from doing it?

Does my creativity or the creativity of another person have a great deal to do with how we get along?

These questions complement the Better Tomorrows Program for healing strained and broken relationships and are part of the blog’s series of questions for exploring who you are.

To explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club.

PART TWO

Ecuador and Peru Travel Report # 14:

Can You Make Towel Swans?

towels in the shape of a swan

When we sailed down the Nile two years ago, we would come back to our rooms and find our towels twisted in shapes that represented elephants, birds, flags, flowers, and even on one night as a monkey hanging from the ceiling. That was the only other cruise we took in which we slept on board before we visited the Gallapagos and the Amazon on our recent trip. For the trip up the inner passage in Alaska we had a Days-Afloat-Nights-Ashore so didn’t know that many cruise crews make clever designs from the towels.

I attended a program in which the crew demonstrated how to make these and I’ll tell you that they are a bit harder than you might think, though not impossible for an amateur. Maybe I’ll make some for guests in the future, and then again I may not.

Does Extroversion or Introversion Affect Your Relationships?

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Exploring Your Personality # 8:

Extroversion and Introversion

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:

Do I like to be the first to a party and the last to leave, and are my batteries charged by conversation?

Do I consider myself to be an extrovert? Why?

Do I enjoy quiet conversations about feelings and ideas, but become awkward in groups and uncomfortable at small talk, and would I feel drained by needing to spend much time at a party?

Do I see myself as an introvert? Why?

How do my answers shed light on my relationship with someone with whom I have a strained or broken relationship?

These questions complement the Better Tomorrows Program for healing strained and broken relationships and are part of the blog’s series of questions for exploring who you are.

To explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club.

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PART TWO

Travel Report # 9:

It Wasn’t a Quickie

Mating Tortoises

At Primicias, an ecological reserve on Santa Cruz Island in the Galapagos, we saw this pair of giant tortoises having sex in an open field.  He shifted his position ever so slowly and made growling noises that sounded like a giant clearing his throat. I wondered if she had gone to sleep or was just hoping it would be over soon. In this particular shot you can’t see her, but she’s there and he’s bending his head to keep an eye on her.

Since these tortoises can live well over 100 years, they may just be an old couple trying to remember how to do it.

The tortoises are allowed to roam and after the female has laid her eggs somewhere in the area rangers collect them and bring them to a facility where they are allowed to hatch in safety. Then you placed back into the field or given to zoos around the world to replenish the supply of the largest tortoises in the world.