Does Following the Rules (or Not) Affect Your Relationships?

The questions today are simple and have to do with a topic we generally don’t talk about much, it’s the way in which some of us are sticklers for following the rules (perfectionists particularly) and others who rebel against rules. If you and another person are at loggerheads, perhaps that is one of your problems. How would you answer the following questions?

sun with question markExploring Your Personality # 15:

Following the Rules

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:

Would others consider me agreeable, conventional, conforming, suggestible, and/or indecisive?

Do I sometimes feel I understand others, but then realize I don’t because I’ve been too focused on pleasing them? If so, why do I think this is true of me?

Might someone say that I act bored, want to make a good impression, go by the book, and am nice but rigid, strong and silent?

What do the answers to these questions say about my relationship with others?

These questions complement the Better Tomorrows Program for healing strained and broken relationships and are part of the blog’s series of questions for exploring who you are.

To explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club.

Does Flexibility or Inflexibility Affect Your Relationships?

NOTE #1: If you’ve been following the blog, you may notice that the travel notes got a little messed up recently. You may find some pictures and their stories got repeated. Sorry. I think I’ve gotten myself straightened out now.
NOTE #2: I have revised and updated the Q-and-A Club and now include the blog’s questions for exploring your personality (including those below) as part of the Understanding Yourself category. Check out the new club and see which level of free membership you’d like to join. It’s all informal, so just choose some area of interest and ask yourself questions.

sun with question markPART ONE

Exploring Your Personality # 14:

Flexibility and Inflexibility

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:

Does it take time for me to adjust to new situations and unexpected circumstances? If not, why do I think I am flexible? If so, why do I think I have trouble being flexible?

Would I like to roll with the punches better than I do? If so, how do I imagine I would do things differently?

These questions complement the Better Tomorrows Program for healing strained and broken relationships and are part of the blog’s series of questions for exploring who you are.

To explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club.

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PART TWO

Equador and Peru Travel Report # 15:

We Were Blue-Footed Boobies

Blue-footed Boobies

On the cruise ship through the Galapagos Islands, the ninety passengers were divided into groups that fit nicely into the Zodiac boats that took us on trips to the beaches of individual islands. Each group was given a name like Penguins, Dolphins, Pelicans, etc. We were the Boobies, which meant the blue-footed boobies like those above. I was particularly pleased because when I asked my grandson at Christmas last year what he wanted, he said he wanted a donation in his name to the Wildlife Fund; and he chose the blue-footed boobies as his choice of an endangered species.

I have to admit, these are strange-looking birds who carry out a blue theme throughout their whole bodies. I don’t know if there are other birds whose name reflects the color of their feet, but these do and I like to think that maybe a tiny bit of the money we gave to the Wildlife Fund makes their life a bit easier.