Passing On Our Possessions

This article originally appeared on the Support4Change website, and is reposted here.

Discover how one family had great fun in deciding, while their parents were still living, what the children would inherit.

I’m so glad I’m alive to watch our children choose the paintings they want.
—Comment of my father as his children were deciding what items we wanted to inherit

fallIf you’ve never had the pleasure of choosing the things you want to inherit from your parents while they are still living, you’ve missed a great opportunity. Fortunately, I had that chance more than ten years ago when my parents were going into a retirement community and needed to pare down their possessions.

During a family reunion, my three siblings and I divided almost everything they owned into separate categories, such as kitchen items, tools, paintings (both were amateur painters), furniture, etc. The idea was to make selections of what we’d like to have for ourselves and for our children. We’d be able to take with us those things they had to get rid of right away and would mark other items we’d receive after they died. Read More

Reading Body Language at Family Get-Togethers

Cover of Healing Relationships is an Inside JobLast week I gave you an excerpt from Healing Relationships is an Inside Job on suggestions for how you might listen to someone with whom you would ordinarily have a difficult time.

This week I want to share the text that appears right after that segment in the book. Like the suggestions on listening “with the third ear,” this post gives you information on how body language gives a wealth of information to another person. It can tell them whether you are really interested in them, or whether you can hardly wait until you have a chance to say something.

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Healing Strained Family Relationships During the Holidays

 Advice to make the holidays peaceful and less stressful.

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Do you dread an upcoming family gathering because you will have to deal with some crazy relatives? If so, here are some recommendations, based in part on suggestions in Healing Relationships is an Inside Job.

Just reading this list may encourage you to face your family with less dread — and to slow down a bit as you approach the end-of-year get-togethers.

Be sure to notice the suggestions in bold.

Be glad your family isn’t boring.

Consider using this as a time to heal old wounds, which may be easier than you think.

Use the KISS method, which, if you don’t know, stands for “keep it simple silly.”

Take mini-vacations before, during, and after the family gathering.

Be flexible.

Write “DON’T PANIC” on the top of your to-do list.

Spend a quiet day or evening all by yourself.

Ask for help when you need it!!!

Relax.

Invite friends, if for no other reason than the observation that family feuds are often toned down in front of outside company.

Treat your family like you treat your friends.

Compliment your family, especially those whose hard work is often overlooked because it is always expected of someone.

See others as they are today, not as they were the last time you saw them, or as they were many years ago; people really do change when you aren’t looking.

Let bygones be bygones.

Relax.

Give people space to be themselves.

Make exceptions to accommodate special needs.

Take advantage of the occasion to create an oral history event.

Remember what’s really important.

Relax.

Enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Creative Stories: Set Number 9

June 20, 2013
Enrich your connection with others by using a
creative story-telling game.

 

Creative Stories about Family and Friends: Every two weeks this blog features a new set of pictures to help you have fun and conversations with your children, grandchildren, and friends. Read the instructions for this unique game and view earlier sets of pictures by clicking on the "Creative Stories" tab above..

NOTE:

When you use the following
set of pictures for your conversation game,
be sure to include these words:

“The policeman gave her a ticket.”

 

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skateboard.

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Summer solstice

.bunny
.sandwich. pow .house
back camera .PeruPeru

 

Let me know how you have used this game. If you want to share the story, I will print it on the blog.

 

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Creative Stories: Set Number 8

June 6, 2013
Enrich your connection with others by using a creative story-telling game.

 

Creative Stories about Family and Friends: Every two weeks this blog features a new set of pictures to help you have fun and conversations with your children, grandchildren, and friends. Read the instructions for this unique game and view earlier sets of pictures by clicking on the "Creative Stories" tab above.

NOTE:

When you use the following
set of pictures for your conversation game,
be sure to include these words:

“There were two pencils in his pocket and three pens in his jacket”

 

 tricycle

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First Day of Summer Vacation

cat
Cherry cheesecake zap House with pool
nose mailbox Sweden
Sweden

 

Let me know how you have used this game. If you want to share the story, I will print it on the blog.

 

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