Are You a Carrot, an Egg, or a Coffee Bean?

April 23, 2012
When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?
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A Fond Farewell Article

When I changed Support4Change to a new format, I needed to delete some articles that didn’t fit in the new site but were too good to completely throw away. So I have moved many of them here to the blog, where they will still be available and people can find them by using tags. Enjoy.



A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give Eggup. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit Coffee Beanand boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

PanTurning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked. “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity—boiling water—but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another lever?

How do you handle Adversity? Are you a Carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?


The Most Inspirational Short Movie of the Decade

June 8, 2011


SPECIAL NOTE: If you haven’t yet checked out the Love Your Life Summit, there is still time. Every day until June 20 you will be able to watch an interview with Marci Shimoff and two people who give excellent advice on bringing joy and love into your life.


How would you cast a man without arms or legs in a movie about a circus in the great depression?

In my last post I wrote about looking in the mirror and seeing “flaws” that are truly insignificant. I also shared a video about a woman who, each time she looks in the mirror, sees a woman without arms. Yet that same woman has a pilots’ license, an accomplishment I’ve not been able to achieve with two arms.

Today I want to tell you about Nick Vujicic, a preacher and motivational speaker  from Australia who has neither arms nor legs.

As you could imagine, he was bullied as a young boy and, at the age of 10, considered committing suicide in 6 inches of water. Yet he went on to graduate from university at the age of 21 with a double major in Accounting and Financial Planning. Since then he’s become a motivational speaker, traveling internationally and focusing on teen issues. He is also director of Life Without Limbs, an organization for the physically disabled and regularly gives speeches about disabilities and hope.

I love the name of his first book, Life Without Limits: Inspiration for a Ridiculously Good Life, which was published in 2010. While I’ve seen several of his motivational talks on YouTube, I especially liked his role in the award-winning short film “The Butterfly Circus.” I have included in this post both parts of this film (it needed to be cut into two parts for inclusion on YouTube) and encourage you to see both of them. It will be twenty minutes well spent!


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What Does This Woman See When She Looks in the Mirror?

June 6, 2011


SPECIAL NOTE: If you haven’t yet checked out the Love Your Life Summit, there is still time. Today you can hear Marci Shimoff interview Cynthia Hersey, about whom I wrote in my post on May 18, Is Your Compassion Unstoppable?


If you avoid looking in mirrors because your body doesn’t look the way you’d like it to look, what do you think this woman sees when she looks in a mirror?

How many of us see our “flaws” when we look in the mirror,  especially when we happen to glance at the mirror just after we’ve just stepped out of the shower?

When I look, I notice the weight that has shifted from other parts of my body to the area around my waist. My stomach used to be reasonably flat. Now two extra pounds have been added in the past year and I think they make me look I’m carrying ten extra pounds.

However, when my critic starts commenting when I turn on the bathroom light, I remind myself of one of the nicest things said to me by a friend of mine — who has lost more than fifty pounds and works with a trainer: “We can decide to lose weight, but our bodies decide where it will be lost.” Nevertheless, I too often feel inferior to those with well-proportioned bodies that don’t show the extra cookie they ate before bedtime.

All of this is by way of commenting on some videos I saw recently about two people who are able to do extraordinary things with far less “normal” bodies than most of us have. The first is someone I want to highlight today and I’ll share the other in the next post in two days.

Jessica Cox was born without arms but now has a pilot’s license for light-weight planes! She can do amazing things with her feet, including putting in her contact lens. I doubt she focuses on her lack of arms when she looks in the mirror. So now when I look in the mirror, I’m going to tell my critic that I have much to be grateful for and two extra pounds around the middle ain’t nothing to complain about.

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