What Advice Would You Give a Perfectionist?

August 10, 2011
If you are a perfectionist who is tired of feeling you always have to give 110% to whatever you do (or know of someone like that), what advice would work best for you?

You are invited to come along on my vacation that begins today:

Today we are driving up to San Francisco to meet our grandson . . . who is being driven by our son from Fortuna (northern California) down to my brother-in-law’s in Palo Alto . . . where we’ll leave our car while we fly together to Boston . . . rent a car and drive to Lexington, Massachusetts, where my daughter lives . . . walk around historical sites for a couple days . . . drive for three hours up to Boothbay Harbor, Maine, for an Elderhostel (now Road Scholar) Intergenerational program on sailing . . . enjoy five days learning to sail . . . drive back to Boston (it’s cheaper that way than flying out of Maine) . . . fly back to San Francisco . . . pick up our car and drive to northern California to return our grandson . . . visit a few other family members there . . . and drive home!

During this sojourn I have pre-scheduled three posts a week while I’m gone so that when you come here while I’m driving, flying, walking, driving, sailing, driving, flying, and driving again, you’ll find something here that may interest you.

Of course, if you are on vacation, I rather hope you don’t bother visiting here. You need to enjoy wherever you have gone, and the blog will be here when you return.


Include Your Suggestions in an Ebook for Perfectionists

In my last newsletter I said that I plan to put together an e-book for perfectionists (and those who live with them). I thought it would be a good idea to have a compilation of advice on the subject besides my “Lessons of a Recovering Perfectionist.”

So whether or not you are a perfectionist, I invite you to tell me:

  • Your definition of perfectionism.
  • The best advice you would give someone who is a perfectionist.
  • If you are a perfectionist, the best advice you’ve been given and whether you’ve taken that advice.AND, if you have a story, funny or otherwise, include that as well.

I will not use your name, or initials, unless you give me permission. But I will include your advice in the book. I won’t tell you when I expect to publish it, for that would only play into the hands of my own perfectionist, who thinks she can manage my time with a zillion projects and get them all done according to her optimistic schedule.

If you have any friends who have been able to go from practicing to recovering perfectionist, please share this project with them. I would love to know what it is that has helped others overcome the pressure to do better than one needs to do, or perhaps even can do.

To fill out the form, click on this link: Perfectionism Survey.

Since I wrote the newsletter, I’ve decided that anyone who fills out the perfectionism survey would be entered into a raffle for a print book of Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life.  If you win, I will contact you for your address.

Thanks for giving me information on perfectionism. I can use all the help I can get.

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A Good Quiz No Matter Who Created It

May 25, 2011
Here is a quick quiz that demonstrates the value of friendship.

Charles Schulz, cartoonist at his deskI love receiving neat stuff in the mail and wondering whether it is really true or just someone’s idea of what should be true. One of these recently came to my inbox and said that Charles Schulz, creator of the Peanuts cartoons, had designed a quiz to determine the importance of having people care about you. So I looked it up on Snopes, one of my favorite sites for tracking down fake facts.

Apparently this set of questions first appeared in about 2000. It often came with a quotation at the end that was one that the cartoonist did have a character say, “Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today . . . . it’s already tomorrow in Australia.”

Someone must have seen that line attributed to Schulz and thought the whole piece was by him.

Nevertheless, I think the questions are quite worth asking oneself and so I give them to you, attributing them to that famous author, Anonymous. You are not asked to actually answer the questions, but to ponder them. I think that’s good because I would have a hard time with many of them.

First, ask yourself these questions:
1.  Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2.  Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3.  Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4.  Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5.  Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6.  Name the last decade’s worth of World Series winners. 
How did you do?The point is , none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second-rate achievers.
They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies..
Awards tarnish..
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1.  List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2.  Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3.  Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4.  Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5.  Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.Easier?
The lesson:
The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money…or the most awards.
They simply are the ones who care the most.
— Anonymous


Today I am probably driving to Glacier National Park and once more gathering wonderful memories. To see how I will do that, read Getting Ready to Gather Memories.

Photo credit: Wikimedia Commons
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